3 Instant Steps To Owning Your Energy

It is probably a little strange to think that energy can be “owned” considering energy is everywhere, in everything, accessible and available at any time.

Yet, we easily allow our own energy to be imbalanced and shifted depending on our environment.  Work related stress? An unruly coworker? Long commutes? A hard day at home? Do any of these trigger an imbalance in your energy?

There are many things in our surroundings and our environments that we cannot control.  HOWEVERRRR, what we can control, is how we respond to these events and situations. What we can control, is our own energy.  We can control how we respond to situations.

The next time you find yourself in an event that you feel is starting to shift your energy, try these steps to reign it back into alignment:

1. Assess the vibe of your environment and the vibe of your own energy.  Scan your energy- how are you feeling?  Pay attention to your own body language.  What kind of actions or behaviors are you demonstrating? These are cues and signs that a certain environment or situation is not consistent with your energetic state, and its starting to throw you off.  For me personally, if I am talking with someone who is arrogant and self absorbed, my breathing becomes shallow and I get really anxious.  I just want to get the heck outta there!! I want to ask you what are your “energetic cues” when an environment or situation is not matching your energetic frequency? Not sure? You may want to practice assessing and scanning your energy multiple times a day to get an idea of how you respond to your surroundings.  Jotting this down will be great for reflection later in the day.
2. Bring yourself back to center.  Ground yourself. Refocus.  Take a walk. Breathe.  Physically remove yourself from the environment or situation, and call yourself back into your true and essential self.
3. Choose to respond with love.  Cheesy, I know, but seriously, love is always the answer.  People need love.  Its probably the reason why most people act like ass hats on any given day- they need some love! Empathy, compassion, and kindness are highly vibrational and can change the energy of the situation or environment.

At the end of the day, remember that YOU are in control of your energy.  You OWN it.  You may not be able to control your environment, but you can certainly control how you respond to it.

Do you find yourself having a hard time controlling your emotions/ feelings/ energy during the day? OR maybe you already own your energy like a true boss- feel free to share some wisdom in the comments below!

step up your manifestation game this weekend with these 3 easy steps

When thinking of universal energy, I always start with these two thoughts:

1. Like attracts like.
2. Energy is in everything and everywhere.

Are we taking full advantage of this energy and magic that is available to us all day, every day? This vibrant force that is on our side to help us heal, connect, ascend and manifest all we desire??

I feel safe saying that most of us don’t. The good news is, it can stop today!

This weekend, do these 3 things to help step up your manifestation game using the relentless force and energy of the universe: 

1.  Be crystal clear.

No wishy-washy nonsense when you are asking for what you want. Now is not the time to be shy or humble. State exactly what you want, how you want it and when you would like to have it.

Example: I don’t just want a car.  I want a freshly painted light blue, 1969 Volkswagen mini bus, for my price range of $12,000 and I want it in time for my Fall road trip across America.

The universe doesn’t mess around, it matches exactly what you ask of it, so be super clear and concise.

Which means its important to….

2.  Be positive.

Remember, energy is everything and everywhere, including our thoughts! Our thoughts hold vibration.  So if we thing negative, low vibrating thoughts, the universe matches it with negative, low vibrating things. If we thing, fun, high vibrating thoughts, the universe will deliver fun, high vibrating things.

It’s as simple as that, right?  Um, No, it’s actually not.  Even Miss Positivity over here can have a bad day here and there and kick the dirt on my way home.  So this is what you gotta do: Anytime you catch yourself starting to think or speak negatively, immediately say “STOP.  Change the vibration, man” and choose to rephrase that exact thought or phrase in a more positive light.

Example:

“I only have $8,000 saved and this road trip is 1 month away. I’m never going to get another $4,000 by then.”

Stop.  Change the vibration, man.

“I only have $8,000 saved and this road trip is 1 month away.  How can I get this bus on time? (pick up a few shifts, borrow money, look for the same bus in another state that might be selling it cheaper)

Not only did we change the vibration of our thoughts, but it also forced us to be more proactive.  Movement and momentum is key for raising the vibration.

3.  Repeat your request.

It’s not a “one and done” deal.  You have to be consistent with your actions and energy of your thoughts.

Besides going out there and actually earning the moolah for the bus, find different ways to send your vibrating thoughts to the universe.

This is where vision boards really come in handy.  You slap that bad boy on a wall or high trafficking area in your home and your subconscious picks up on those images.  It’s constantly on your mind and the universe picks up on those subtle frequencies as well.

Grab a journal and write while daydreaming about your days cruising on the open road chasing sunsets.  Where will you stop? What does the view look like? What snacks will you have on hand? This is FUN! And the universe responds to fun very quickly.

Affirmations are a wonderful tool for raising the vibration of your thoughts.

example: “this country is free for me to drive and explore and honor its beauty.  I am grateful for this opportunity to be adventurous in my dream car, that I have earned and deserve to have.”

Repeat these actions, everyday, multiple times per day.  Remember , the universe does NOT differentiate between the energy of your thoughts towards what you already have and the energy of your thoughts towards what you envision having.

Dream big. Repeat.

 

 

Disconnection from emotions

When we turn off our abilities to feel certain emotions, we don’t have the privilege to select which emotions we want to turn off, ignore, and hide from.

When we turn off our connection with one or a few select emotions, we actually end up turning off our connection with ALL emotions and feelings – the good, bad and the ugly.

Further more, on a spiritual level, it prevents us from receiving any type of messages, intuitive downloads and communication from our spirit guides, angels and our own intuition.

How are we supposed to be guided by our own intuition if we can’t even allow ourselves to tune it and feel anything?

You know what you gotta do right? You gotta feel it to heal it.

Feel all the feels.

Allow yourself to feel vulnerable and surrender to the lessons and messages those memories and emotions are trying to teach you.

*note: If the feelings you are trying to avoid/ignore are triggered by a past trauma, then I encourage  you to seek the appropriate help to assist you in healing from these memories.  This healing should not be done alone.  It can get dark and scary and its important to have support to ground you and nurture you.

Once we start embracing all of our feelings, including the “dark and ugly”, we can open up our channels to feel and heal ALL feelings and emotions.

We become reconnected to our truth, our intuition, and our Source of magic.

Beautiful shifts start to occur because you are now able to make decisions that serve your own greater good, because you are guided by and trust your intuition and gut feelings.

 

Trade pain for peace

Forgiveness can be a hard pill to swallow.

Regardless of any wrong doing and actions that have caused us nothing but pain and trauma, do you really think holding on to that energy is going to benefit you and allow you to move on peacefully?

It’s time to use that big ‘ol F word…forgiveness.

Not necessarily forgiving the person or the action, not unless it feels right for you, of course. We are being called to seek forgiveness for the benefit and well being of your heart and mind. You get to create a conduit of love and light to fill your heart, mind and soul.  You replace toxic, unfavorable, angry, sad and betrayed energy for love, peace and light.

Release the pain that no longer serves you, and you choose to replace it with love, light and forgiveness.

Trade pain for peace.

Change the vibration of your energy and watch a beautiful manifest life unfold from here on out.

{Identity} The story of validation

Certifications, job promotions and titles.

I have achieved these over and over again.

All the while, never really asking myself if it was what I really wanted.

It felt good to achieve these goals and feel successful, but what I have soon realized was that it was never out of passion.  I just knew it was good to achieve them . It looked good to achieve them. It made me feel validated.

I never realized it then, but validation was something I craved.  I needed it to feel like I mattered.

It was my way of proving to those around me that I was here.  I was valuable. I was present. I had purpose. I am worthy.  I matter.

Once I realized this pattern, I knew it was important to figure out when it started and how it even came about.  I could trace this need for validation as far back as I can remember. In our traditional Hispanic culture, the voices, ideas and thoughts of children are merely celebrated.  This is most evident if said child was first generation American (me!).

My parents worked tooth and nail to survive in a country that was new in all things language and culture.  Growing up, their main concerns were caring for their siblings and making sure there was dinner available. Cut to 25 years later and having a 7 year old daughter tell them that she didn’t appreciate the way she was yelled at in front of her family earlier that day, because it felt embarrassing and condescending.

I’m pretty sure their response was something along the lines of “I’ll show you condescending…(while grabbing the nearest ‘chankla’ [sandal])” Haha.

My parents loved us unconditionally.  They provided a life to live wanting nothing that wasn’t essential.  They tried their dang hardest to understand American culture while raising myself and my sister.  However, patterns are hard to change, especially if one is unaware of them.

No matter how hard I pleaded, raised my voice and stomped my feet, I couldn’t get the validation of my thoughts and feelings that I was striving for, and it left me feeling frustrated, and a tad insignificant. These experiences and memories  have changed the course of my life through habits and patterns that constantly sought out validation and praise.

When I was finally able to trace back the source of my habits and patterns to my childhood memories, it was the best “ureka” moment.  First and foremost, I developed compassion for my parents because I knew in my heart that they only did nothing short of their best to raise my sister and I.  Secondly, I was finally able to start healing those wounds and start changing my current habits and patterns.

Moving forward, I only choose to do things that ignite my passion and soul.  Things that give me chills with excitement.  Things that are FUN! I am making decisions because they genuinely make me happy, and not because I feel as though I need to prove something or receive validation for my efforts.

I encourage you to open up.

Go deep.

Allow yourself to feel safe to go back to those hurtful, shameful memories that have been dictating your life decisions. Feel safe to go back to your roots so you can heal from them , offer closure spiritually, so that you can change the energy of your thoughts and habits, and then your physical, mental and emotional health can follow and thrive.

Be brave.

Allow yourself to feel and heal and watch the magic happen.

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{{{I am holding space for you}}}

Digging deep and opening up room in your heart for healing and growth can feel overwhelming and emotional. It’s important to have a grounding routine and support system through your healing journey. 

I have created a sacred, women’s only Facebook group, as a way to hold space for vibrant women who are reconnecting to their true identity and purpose and life.  For women who are reclaiming their power and are ready to do epic sh*t.

I invite you to join our sisterhood where we raise our own vibrations. 

Join my Facebook group: Raise The Vibration Nation 

{journaling} Facilitating your own healing

I always used to be obsessed with journals. I guess it was the universe’s way to tell me to start writing down my thoughts and feelings on paper so I can facilitate my own healing. However, I would never write in them.  I would probably fill out a page, at most, but then leave it at that.  I couldn’t even re-gift it if I wanted to because I had already used one sad, lonely page.  Yet the collection of journals continue to grow.  For the past three months I have been undergoing some deep energy healing and it was benefited me tremendously, but nonetheless it’s still scary and doesn’t feel good, and I can’t help but wonder if that’s why I never wrote in all of those journals I have collected over the years. I think I just never really wanted to come face to face with my wounds and hurt from the past.

Alas, I’m a little more than halfway through my first REAL journal (read: committed to writing more than just one page) and I’m almost feeling a little sad thinking about the time where I’m finished with it and I need to move onto a new one. It is help me so much to come into light, facilitate my own healing, and really discover and uncover what has been brewing underneath and dictating all of my feelings, actions and life decisions thus far.

i’ve been able to receive clarity in my purpose in life, my passions and what really fuels my soul. I’ve been able to uncover all those old patterns and limiting beliefs that have been ingrained into my energy and my aura.

If you find yourself wanting to use journaling as a means to facilitate your healing and reflect, I advise the following:

Embrace it. Don’t be afraid of your thoughts and feelings.  If they start to feel icky, fearful and uncomfortable, then there is a reason for that, and burying/ignoring those feelings and thoughts is not going to do you any favors.  They will continue to reside underneath the surface and dictate your emotions, feelings, and life.

Feel all the feels.  “You have to feel it, in order to heal it”.  Sit with these thoughts and feelings.  Acknowledge the emotions that come with it. Honor them.  Its part of the healing process.  If you have to cry, do it.  If you want to punch pillows, go nuts (make sure it’s an ugly one).  If you want to scream, get angry or resentful, feel it baby! Its alll part of the healing process and we need to feel all of these feels in order to heal.  Make sure you are extra kind to yourself these days.  Get pampered, drink nourishing teas, adorn yourself in comforting clothes and blankets.  Watch feel good movies. Trust in someone to talk about it all.  Get reiki healing.  Make an appointment with your therapist.  Take care of you!

My favorite part about journaling: you can reflect.  I love looking back a few weeks ago, or even months ago, and seeing where I was at that moment.  I love seeing patterns in my thoughts that repeat entry after entry.  Its my best way to gain clarity with what I am truly experiencing and feeling. Bonus: its a great way to write down some of your best ideas and have a moment of “dayum- I’m a freakin’ genius!”.

If you have a hard time journaling or don’t know how to start I recommend putting time aside for just 5 minutes in a quiet space.  Just start writing what ever is on your mind- seriously, start anywhere, and just keep writing. Don’t stop.  Even if you go on tangents, even if your thoughts are scattered- don’t judge, and just keep on writing.  Eventually you will see that your subconscious thoughts will start to peek through, and you may find yourself writing about things you didn’t even know you felt or were thinking.

Also, feel free to use prompts, like questions or statements. “What made your eyes sparkle when you were younger?”  “Choose 3 things you would like to accomplish this year.” Like I said before, just starting writing your responses to these prompts without judgement.  Let that pen and your thoughts flow in unison and uncover the truth to many of your own questions.